We don't like to be right. We like to feel right.

We don't like to be right. We like to feel right. And that’s already a problem.

There’s a gentle illusion many of us carry through life that we form our opinions from facts. That we are guided by logic, fairness, and evidence.

But more often, we don’t look for the truth. We look for what makes us feel safe.

We look for what confirms what we already believe.

This small habit of the mind has a name: confirmation bias.

It isn’t aggressive. It’s quiet. Familiar. It helps us notice what fits our view, and ignore the rest al, most without meaning to.

Take a manager who believes Luigi is unreliable. He’s late once, and it becomes the story.

He helps the team late into the night? That part quietly disappears.

Not out of bad will. Simply because the ending was already written.

In the 1960s, Peter Wason studied this. He asked people to guess a simple rule behind a sequence of numbers. Most didn’t try to challenge their idea — they only tested examples that confirmed it. And I think that says something about us: we’re not built for contradiction. We’re built for coherence.

It’s not a fault. It’s a survival mechanism. But it means we can spend a long time polishing the wrong belief, just because it feels right.

So what can we do?

• Maybe we can ask: what would prove me wrong?

• Maybe we can invite someone who disagrees not to argue, but to learn.

• And when we feel absolutely sure… maybe that’s the moment to stop and breathe.

Because truth doesn’t always shout. Sometimes it just waits, politely, for us to notice it.